Drama Llama Ding Dong

If you find that your life is full of drama – people arguing and fighting with you, talking behind your back, betraying you, or a host of other “drama” related issues- then you may fall into one of the following categories:

1. You are really sensitive – and you need to lighten up.
Try not to take everything personally. Try not to assume that they are talking about you. And if they ARE talking about you – recognize it’s probably because of the way you have acted in the past. And if they ARE talking about you – and it’s NOT true – then learn to rise above the mess, not descend into it further.

2. You actually crave drama.
In the same way that sometimes I get a craving for ice cream – you have a craving for drama. You are not happy unless you have an enemy.
Guess what? There are plenty of enemies in this world. You don’t need to create more of them.
If you find yourself in this position – chances are good you’ve been raised to look for the enemy. It’s time to intentionally look for the good. Time to express gratitude. If you need an enemy – find some real evil and injustice, and tackle that. Use that energy to help someone less fortunate. It might turn it all around – IF you can get your focus off yourself. Which leads me to the next issue.

3. You are stuck on yourself.

And you think everyone else ought to be too. My friend tells me there are two types of pride (or vanity) – Big Wheel Pride – “Hey, look how awesome I am on my new big wheel!”  and Worm Pride – “Woe is me. What a wretched waste of time I am. I’m just a nasty earth-dwelling worm.”
The problem in both of these forms of pride is that the idol, the subject of attention is the self.
Certainly, there needs to be SOME focus on self for a healthy life – but if we’re out of balance, we’re creating drama not just in our own lives, but that spills out into the lives of others.

No one wants to admit that any of these might be them. But the truth is – drama begets drama. You get out of life what you put into it – and while bad things happen to all of us sometimes, how we react sets the tone for the next situation. If our attitude is negative, we will only perpetuate the cycle.